I wanted to start taking my cousin’s son one night a week in order to spend time with him. His father said it was ok. I had gotten to the point where I was ready to watch over a little human being for one night on my own.
I had food for him, games for him, activities in mind; outside from his clothes for the next day, shoes and rest what else did I need for a four year old. His mother has now been deceased four months due to cancer and I had not seen much of him when she was alive. Now that she had passed I wanted him to know who I was; I wanted to know more about him.
The week I was supposed to take him I was told he had no clean clothes to wear. I wondered how he was going to school the next day. But the nonetheless I went to see him so that I could spend some time with him. Last week I was supposed to take him again.
The drawn out conversation went as follows:
Him: She home
Him: Ask her
Him: I’m not there if she says no I’ll bring him
Me: Her phone isn’t on.
Him: Ok I’ll call her fiancé phone
Me: Do you want me to come pick (my cousin) up.
Me: I can’t believe you guys did this again. I know my cousin is not happy about you keeping him away from his family. We are both disappointed in you guys.
Him: Yo I was on my way but okay
Me: So bring him.
Him: Trying to stay cool her birthday tomorrow… It a lot right now… Planning something for tomorrow at the cemetery.
Me: I feel sorry for you but it has nothing to do with me seeing (my cousin). Wat y’all doing is not right.
Him: K well I’m coming give me a min
Me: Did he eat?
Him: That’s what he’s doing now.
Me: Please make sure he has his tooth brush, clothes, shoes and homework for tomorrow. I also need his school address.
Him: Hey tomorrow better he don’t wanna go no where he wit ***
Him: And his cuzzin so tomorrow u can come get him
Me: Wow… Cassandra is really disgusted with you guys.
Him: Don’t tell me who disgusted u never came and took him over night while she was here now u want to leave me alone
Me: Yeah she’s disgusted can’t believe your treating her son this way. I’ll pray for you guys.
Him: Mann I do everything for him not u pray for yourself I can’t belive u.
Me: Can’t believe you you’re really just hurting (my cousin) but what do you care? He’s only your son. Gn.
Him: I feed him take him to school new clothes I take care of him he good u mad cause he didn’t come none of her family help me wit him gn to u.
That last message was a ploy to segue into him requesting for more money. There are a plethora of things I could add to this post about the way they are raising my little cousin. But I’m not writing this to bash but to relieve a heavy heart. One of my favorite cousins and dearest family member is now gone. While she was alive she took care of her son. Now that she is gone I fear for his well being.
Last week when I went to see him. I watched him as he and his cousin played with a toy car and a bottle cap on the kitchen table. It was then my cousin ran his bottle cap into a very large knife with wide serrated edges; almost as tall as him. My little cousin is four but small for his age. I removed it only to see him run his bottle cap into a butcher knife on the same table – I removed that as well. His aunt and some friends were having a gathering in the living room. Who was watching the kids? I did – during the short hour I was in the house.
I thought of calling the state over the situation. My roommate stated the he might be worse off if I had decided to do that. I realized it was a coin toss. I only hope that worse does not happen to make me realize I made a huge mistake by not calling them. As I said before there are a plethora of other things I could mention.
But not allowing him to see his family worries me that he’ll feel as if I lied to him or he is unloved. The little one is very smart for his age; I hope that one day he will piece together that his father and aunt kept him from me and not that I didn’t want to see him.